I’ve always felt that of all the priorities in my life, relationships take the top spot. Above career, above money, above everything.
As we get older a lot of things get harder, relationships especially. Relationships with your family, your best friends, your lovers, relationships with anyone who means anything to you. We get so caught up in other things that shouldn’t matter as much as they do in our world. Things like stress and dead-end jobs and making rent and going out to events and all of the other mindless things we end up doing not to impress ourselves, but to impress others. Wild how that works right?
But I think relationships should take that top spot. 100%, no hesitation. If someone needs me to hold their hand or let them cry or drive them to the airport or cook them dinner, I do it. It’s all about making the effort to show that you care. Making the time for someone. That’s the biggest thing, making time. In a world where we are constantly running from one thing to the next, having someone make time to spend with you is one of the most precious things they can give.
I want to try this new thing where I say what I feel, when I feel it. Not just keeping it inside because I think it’s stupid. Maybe that lines me up to get hurt more often. But it also lines me up to be more honest with the people I care about. I think a lot of the time in relationships, people don’t say what they feel even when it’s a good thing. Think about all of the times when you wanted to tell someone they looked pretty and you didn’t. You could have made their day or week or even month just by saying “you look pretty today.”
The biggest part of this new thing is saying I love you. I don’t throw around the “L” word unless I’m really positive about it. Because to me, love means you can’t picture yourself without someone. You check in on them to make sure they’re having an okay day. You want the best for them all the time. You become their #1 cheerleader when needed. You can sit in silence with each other while sitting on the same couch and be perfectly content. You don’t judge them, but instead listen to their deepest fears and secrets as you hold their hand.
Because at the end of the day what else do we have left? You could have all of the money in the world or have absolutely nothing to your name and it doesn’t matter. What matters is the people who you have around you. If something happens to you, you can’t always fix it with money. Money can only do so much. After it has reached a certain point, you have to turn to the people around you for support and love. So when they need you, you better be there. Because one day you’re going to need them so bad that you feel like you can’t breathe. You’ll feel like you can’t move because whatever you’re going through hurts so bad. Then you’ll hear a knock on your door or your phone start to ring and it’s them, calling to see if you’re okay or bringing over dinner or just showing up because they know you needed them.
Make the drive. Give your time. Say I love you I love you I love you. Because life is too short to stay quiet.